one sided relationships, outta balance!!

It is my personal opinion that a lasting relationship should have balance....  To me a relationship should look like a mixture of both of the individuals, not weighing heavy to one side or the other...  I feel like my husband and I have a good balance of each of our likes, and even some things we both like...  When you are in a relationship that is all about one and very little of the other, the little one will get lost.....  Once you loose yourself, it is really hard to find yourself again...  I find that these relationships are mildly toxic, like ingesting a tiny bit of poison that could take years to kill you but you feel bad, and don't know why!!!!!!  For what ever reason, women are the worst, we loose ourselves in the men we are with..  You might find yourself doin things that before made you roll your eyes and gasp in disgust, next thing you know you are spending hours doin the very thing that "pre-guy", you wouldn't have been caught dead doin!!!  Why do women do that????  Wouldn't it be easier and better for you if you found someone who was like you to begin with, instead of trying to fit yourself into a life that you have no business in??????  Evaluate your relationship and ask your self...  Does this look like who I have been for the five years before this person came along???  If the answer is NO, then it is time to find a new person!!!  The real problem is.....  If you want to change who you are, then fantastic, but pretending to be someone you are not, is lying!!!  All lies end badly!!!!