Living with my teen!!

Can I just say...  Living with my teen is very interesting!!  She is a great kid..  She does what she is supposed to , and above all else, she is respectful of me and her Daddy!  She is also a MESS!!  She is on her 3rd guy in 3 months, hahahahah!!  I am so thankful that her Daddy made her make the break with the first guy..  The second guy, well, at first, I was like "hallellujah" then after a few days, I was more like "ehh" he was just kinda ordinary and BORING, But, still better than the first guy!!  Both of those guys were...  Psuedo Jocks, not really what I ever thought Ash would be into....  She has been raised in a more creative house, with Music and Art being the things we are into, not sports...  I just could even figure out, why is my girl watching football all the time.....  Mike and I have prob watched 1 game a year her whole life, and that was the Superbowl and if there wasn't a party attached to it, we wouldn't even watch that!!!  Now on to guy #3.. Jury is still out on him, but so far so good!!!  You gotta be quick witted around here to keep up with the comings and goins of a teenage girl!!!

Mike

Mike, what can i say about him.....  He is my BFF, my husband, my hero, my carpenter, my plumber, my electrician, my mechanic, and my fishing partner!!!  Our first date was a weekend fishing trip to Lake Seminole Fl with his son, his brother, and his father...  We had a great time..  I thought he was FINE!!   I was 23 and had Ashley who at this time was 14 months old...  I already knew that Robert was gonna deadbeat, cause that is how he rolled, so I was looking for a good father...  I watch Mike with his son Kevin all weekend, how he acted around him, how he treated him, how his family was with him...  I was very satisfied with what I was seeing, and I really liked him, thought he was the coolest guy I have ever met!!!!!!  We decided on that trip to give a relationship a try..  We did..  we jumped in with both feet...  We practically lived together from the first date on..  We just clicked, like nothing I had ever experienced in my life...  That was 1995..  The year after Ashley was born is the year she met her REAL father...  Mike told me about 6 months into our relationship, Ashley needs a Dad and I can be that for her..  I wont leave her, she will be mine, just like Kevin is, even if things don't work out with us, I will still be her Dad!!!!  I loved him even more after he said that!!!!  Who knew 17 years later, we would still be together...  It has not been perfect, but it has been solid!!  

Let me tell you...  He and his family...  Just amazing people, they took me and my girl in and treated us like family from the very beginning...  Well, almost from the beginning.  I had to win Jane over, Ashley had her from the minute Jane set eyes on her, she loved her.  There was a time when Jane was spoiling Ashley so badly, she was getting hard to live with...  I had to tell her to stop, we have to live with her, and she was rotten!!!!  Jane laughed and apologized, she said Ashley was so cute and so special, she just wanted her to have everything she wanted, right when she wanted it....  She did understand my point and rained in her lavishing ways!!  Mr. Jerry loved both of us from the beginning!  What a sweet man he was!  I miss them both terribly, we have lost My Father and both Mike's parents in the last 6 years...  

Cold weather

Brrrr!! Looks like winter is here... The prob with winter in FL... Our humidity level stays up, so what you get is a bone chilling cold that is, believe it or not, colder feeling than a dry cold that is even much colder in temp.... It can be 45 her and you will shiver to the point of hurting!!! It can be painful..

The "Representative"

My friend Pat shared this theory with me and the it hands down the truth.. The "Rep" is the person you meet.. Everyone is on their best behavior when they first enter your life, in a love relationship it is REALLY true.... The "Rep" say and does all the right things says all the right things.. Well in time people get comfy with each other and the "real deal" show up.. The "RD" is the person who is left... If you have found someone to be a keeper in your life their "RD" is close to the "Rep". Sometimes the two are vastly different!!! Sometimes the "Rep" leaves and a total stranger is left behind.. That was the case in my first marriage, I call it "flipping the switch".. They are just different one day, usually after a stressor.. My second marriage, with the exception that he does not do dishes, he is the Same person I met.. I think I am too... When someone changes like that, bail!!! The "Rep" is never coming back.. You will get stuck in a cycle of "you need to change" and them only doin short term changes to hook you again, and then back to the "RD".

AHHHHH!! Sunday Again!!

Oh Sunday how I love you!!!  This is my fave day of the week..  I get to go to church and Worship, one of my fav things to do..  I need it especially bad today...  We were out of town last week, so I missed, but a dear friend brought me the CD, so i am caught up..  But, I missed the Worship..  The connection I make with the music is unreal, it really softens my heart and prepares it to hear the Word!!  Today I get the full effect, maybe I will stay for the second music set too.. I stay when Mike is playing his guitar...  But today, he is sleeping...  Worked a 12 hour shift over night last night..  Gotta go!!

The good and the bad! Always come together!!

I haven't written in a while...  I haven't really had much to say...  I have been in a bit of a funk...  We have had some amazingly good things happen around our house, and some amazingly stressful stuff happening around here too!!

 We will start with the good...  After 5 years, Mike has gotten hired with a Jail as a deputy again..  He worked in this field before, decided to open his own handyman business(which did not work out in the economy) and has finally gotten back in with detention...  It is not a fun job, but the pay is good and the benefits are awesome..

Now the stressful...  My girl has been having a little rebellion..  In the scope of what a teen can pull its mild, but because of who my girl normally is, its bad!!!  I am just at my wits end with the whole thing!!!    I don't want to do much bashing on here, this is not really the place for that, for me...  But I will say....  I am over it!!

one sided relationships, outta balance!!

It is my personal opinion that a lasting relationship should have balance....  To me a relationship should look like a mixture of both of the individuals, not weighing heavy to one side or the other...  I feel like my husband and I have a good balance of each of our likes, and even some things we both like...  When you are in a relationship that is all about one and very little of the other, the little one will get lost.....  Once you loose yourself, it is really hard to find yourself again...  I find that these relationships are mildly toxic, like ingesting a tiny bit of poison that could take years to kill you but you feel bad, and don't know why!!!!!!  For what ever reason, women are the worst, we loose ourselves in the men we are with..  You might find yourself doin things that before made you roll your eyes and gasp in disgust, next thing you know you are spending hours doin the very thing that "pre-guy", you wouldn't have been caught dead doin!!!  Why do women do that????  Wouldn't it be easier and better for you if you found someone who was like you to begin with, instead of trying to fit yourself into a life that you have no business in??????  Evaluate your relationship and ask your self...  Does this look like who I have been for the five years before this person came along???  If the answer is NO, then it is time to find a new person!!!  The real problem is.....  If you want to change who you are, then fantastic, but pretending to be someone you are not, is lying!!!  All lies end badly!!!!